That sort of thing takes time and practice and help.
It took years for the fear that my bff hated me (because of something I'd said or done) to no longer come up as a brainweasel special or be instantly dismissed. Though in that time, we were able to get it from hours of woe and patient arguments from him to "ah, this thing" and get it able to be dismissed by him affirming that he didn't hate me.
Recognition of "this is a brainweasel attack" is the first step. "This is a brainweasel attack and probably wrong" is next. "This is a brainweasel attack and absolutely ridiculous" follows. "This is a brainweasel attack and utterly ridiculous and $TRUSTED-PERSON can probably talk me down" is somewhere in there. That is followed by the talk-down process getting quicker. And eventually it can dispel upon realizing that it's ridiculous. It just takes a lot of practice.
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It took years for the fear that my bff hated me (because of something I'd said or done) to no longer come up as a brainweasel special or be instantly dismissed. Though in that time, we were able to get it from hours of woe and patient arguments from him to "ah, this thing" and get it able to be dismissed by him affirming that he didn't hate me.
Recognition of "this is a brainweasel attack" is the first step. "This is a brainweasel attack and probably wrong" is next. "This is a brainweasel attack and absolutely ridiculous" follows. "This is a brainweasel attack and utterly ridiculous and $TRUSTED-PERSON can probably talk me down" is somewhere in there. That is followed by the talk-down process getting quicker. And eventually it can dispel upon realizing that it's ridiculous. It just takes a lot of practice.