Just One Thing (21 August 2016)

[cosmolinguist]

It's challenge time!

Comment with Just One Thing you've accomplished in the last 24 hours or so. It doesn't have to be a hard thing, or even a thing that you think is particularly awesome. Just a thing that you did.

Feel free to share more than one thing if you're feeling particularly accomplished!

Extra credit: find someone in the comments and give them props for what they achieved!

Nothing is too big, too small, too strange or too cryptic. And in case you'd rather do this in private, anonymous comments are screened. I will only unscreen if you ask me to.

Go!

Comments

[azurelunatic]

Healthwork.

Work-work.

Communication of a sort which should, I can hope, result in less woe down the line. (For reasons which don't need explaining at this juncture, someone close to me has to periodically do something which makes me Definitely Upset. Their first impulse is to apologize to me each time. My model of meaningful apologies in general tends to require Not Doing The Thing Again, because the hurt -> react -> apologize -> repeat cycle is ... kind of not one I relish. So them apologizing makes me even less happy as I know it's a thing they'll do again. However, I figured out what elements of reassurance will make me less desperately unhappy about the thing, and that should help a lot going forward.)

[cosmolinguist]

I totally agree on apologies; I'm not as interested in someone's feelings as I am about the likelihood that their behavior will change.

I'm glad you found ways to get reassurance.

[shanaqui]

Good luck in the future re: the communication stuff. I agree with you that's how I assume apologies work, and it makes them meaningless if it just means 'I'm saying sorry so you'll forgive me, but I'm going to do it again'.

[azurelunatic]

Communication on this has been improving over the last while. I absolutely trust them that they regret that this thing upsets me, which is helpful in that I know it's not badly intended towards me. (We would be having entirely different conversations, or perhaps no conversations at all, if they were courting or enjoying my upsetness. We would be having different conversations if they were indifferent to my upsetness.) So that does help, to know that they're aware and working on long-term plans such that maybe it won't need to happen at some point in the future. But that leaves me still upset when it happens.

And now that I have a better look at exactly how my upset-reaction works, I can identify the essential elements to reassurance on this topic, and see which of those are compatible with the types of reassurance my friend can provide.

So, hopefully next time around we'll do better.

And hopefully there won't be too many more months of next times around.

[lilysea]

Brushed teeth even though I REALLY DIDN'T WANNA.

Washed some dresses and undies.

Asked SO to take out kitchen rubbish and collapse some giant cardboard boxes into the outdoor recycling bin.

Asked SO to take the rack off the back of my mobility scooter, and I successfully found the tools that he needed for this (not easy.)

Had a shower even though I REALLY DIDN'T WANNA.

[cosmolinguist]

Doing things you really don't wanna deserves the most applause and adulation. Well done. :)

[lilysea]

Thank you! ^_^

I've had serious a serious case of Don't Wannas the past few weeks.

Including DONT WANNA put antibiotic cream on an abcess 3 times a day.

(Wash hands
put cream on (position/action hurts RSI pain in hands)
wash hands again)

[cosmolinguist]

The Don't Wannas have been so bad for me too. :( Much sympathy.

[shanaqui]

Go you! Even the tiniest task is ridiculously hard when battling Dunwanna.

[shanaqui]

I washed dishes, and I didn't bother the new bunny during naptime even though she's so cute and I wanted to.

[cosmolinguist]

That is some impressive willpower. :) Cute animals can be hard to resist.

[sathari]

Wrote!

[nanila]

Huzzah! Go you!

[nanila]

Took the children to the outdoor museum nearby for a play & a picnic.

Did not shout at the re-enactment crew (13 people dressed as 18th century redcoats) who marched up during our peaceful picnic & totally failed to warn us that they were going to fire their muskets.

Soothed the terrified preschooler, packed up the picnic & went home. Finished our picnic indoors, with the blanket & foraged blackberries.

Went to the NT place with the big playground in the afternoon. Communed with the chickens.

[azurelunatic]

Yikes! Gunpowder really does deserve a warning.

Hooray communing with the birds.

[silveradept]

I spoke my mind in a small way and stuck to it in the face of someone else.

I am observing dynamics at play and trying to figure out how they apply.

I may have allies and support that I did not realize.